A few weeks ago I posted Part 1 of this series http://barbieannlove.blogspot.com/2016/03/the-secrets-to-online-dating-part-1.html where we focused on photos.
Now let’s talk about the second most important part of your
online profile, the “About Me” section. The
section where you have up to 1000 words to convince all those eligible singles
how amazing you are and that they should propose to you immediately J
There is a very delicate balance to this section. Put too little and you seem uninterested, put
too much and you seem like a crazy person.
So let’s go over some of the Do’s and Don’ts I have learned.
DON’T
Only put “I’m an open book.
Ask me what you want to know”.
This comes across as lazy and unwilling to put forth any effort (this is how they end up being in relationships too).
DON’T
Be too general.
Anyone can say “I like to eat out and go to the movies”.
DO
Give a little more detail that would give someone an easy
way to start a conversation. Instead of
saying “I like to eat out”, you can say “I’m a big fan of Mexican food, the Red
Iguana is one of my favorites”. Or
instead of “I like to go to the movies” you can say “I’m always up for a good
action movie. Anyone up for a Mission
Impossible marathon?”. What an easy way
to transition into a conversation! How
simple is it to send a message saying “Red Iguana is my favorite too! Which is your favorite kind of mole?”.
DON’T
Give a list of what you don’t want. Example “Short guys need not apply” or “Only
looking for a physically fit girl. If
you can’t run up a flight of stairs without getting out of breath, don’t bother”. Both of these are real things I have seen on
someone’s profile. Yes, we all have
things we really want in a partner, but putting them out in such a negative way
makes you come across as extremely shallow.
DO
Keep things upbeat and positive. Being too negative is a guaranteed way to
have people pass you by.
DON’T
Talk about your ex or your divorce on your
profile. Things like “She left me and it
wasn’t my fault” or “my ex was a cheating scumbag” do nothing but show you aren’t
over your last relationship and clearly aren’t ready for dating yet. This is an instant red flag for most people.
DO
Use grammar and punctuation!
One giant run on sentence is confusing.
Not being willing to spell out simple words like you (u) or are (r) make
us assume you are an idiot. Type out
what you want to say in a Word doc first, check it for spelling. Then have a friend look it over to make sure
it makes sense. A little double checking
can go a long way!
DON’T
Make your profile too long.
I saw one once that was 9 paragraphs.
Nine. People are looking for a
general overview of who you are and if there are any common interests. They do not want your life story, a poem you
wrote, and your entire testimony.
DO
Talk about things you are passionate about. Goals in life, hobbies that you would really
love to have a partner join you in etc.
Hopefully these tips help you on your online dating
journey. And if you want all the
secrets, contact the LDS Matchmaker for their online dating package. It’s worth it!
www.theldsmatchmaker.com
