Tuesday, May 3, 2016

Secrets to Online Dating – Part 2

A few weeks ago I posted Part 1 of this series http://barbieannlove.blogspot.com/2016/03/the-secrets-to-online-dating-part-1.html  where we focused on photos.

Now let’s talk about the second most important part of your online profile, the “About Me” section.  The section where you have up to 1000 words to convince all those eligible singles how amazing you are and that they should propose to you immediately  J

There is a very delicate balance to this section.  Put too little and you seem uninterested, put too much and you seem like a crazy person.  So let’s go over some of the Do’s and Don’ts I have learned.

DON’T
Only put “I’m an open book.  Ask me what you want to know”.  This comes across as lazy and unwilling to put forth any effort (this is how they end up being in relationships too).

DON’T
Be too general.  Anyone can say “I like to eat out and go to the movies”.

DO
Give a little more detail that would give someone an easy way to start a conversation.  Instead of saying “I like to eat out”, you can say “I’m a big fan of Mexican food, the Red Iguana is one of my favorites”.  Or instead of “I like to go to the movies” you can say “I’m always up for a good action movie.  Anyone up for a Mission Impossible marathon?”.  What an easy way to transition into a conversation!  How simple is it to send a message saying “Red Iguana is my favorite too!  Which is your favorite kind of mole?”.

DON’T
Give a list of what you don’t want.  Example “Short guys need not apply” or “Only looking for a physically fit girl.  If you can’t run up a flight of stairs without getting out of breath, don’t bother”.  Both of these are real things I have seen on someone’s profile.  Yes, we all have things we really want in a partner, but putting them out in such a negative way makes you come across as extremely shallow.

DO
Keep things upbeat and positive.  Being too negative is a guaranteed way to have people pass you by.

DON’T
Talk about your ex or your divorce on your profile.  Things like “She left me and it wasn’t my fault” or “my ex was a cheating scumbag” do nothing but show you aren’t over your last relationship and clearly aren’t ready for dating yet.  This is an instant red flag for most people.

DO
Use grammar and punctuation!  One giant run on sentence is confusing.  Not being willing to spell out simple words like you (u) or are (r) make us assume you are an idiot.  Type out what you want to say in a Word doc first, check it for spelling.  Then have a friend look it over to make sure it makes sense.  A little double checking can go a long way!

DON’T
Make your profile too long.  I saw one once that was 9 paragraphs.  Nine.  People are looking for a general overview of who you are and if there are any common interests.  They do not want your life story, a poem you wrote, and your entire testimony.

DO
Talk about things you are passionate about.  Goals in life, hobbies that you would really love to have a partner join you in etc.


Hopefully these tips help you on your online dating journey.  And if you want all the secrets, contact the LDS Matchmaker for their online dating package.  It’s worth it!

www.theldsmatchmaker.com

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