Why I Hate When People Tell Me “Quality, Not Quantity”

Dates Accomplished - 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43, 44!

Quite frequently when people find out about my 100 date challenge, they like to say something like "You should be focusing on quality, not quantity”.

This is pretty much the face I make when I hear it.

It’s about the same way I feel when people assume I am doing my challenge so I can get a bunch of free dinners.  

Why does it bother me so much you ask?  Because people assume things without asking me anything about what I am doing. 

Why do people assume that the guys I am going out with aren’t quality?

Do people assume that I am just grabbing random guys off the street?  Maybe I’m just waiting outside the jail for when guys get released?  Or I work across the street from the homeless shelter, I could probably get to my 100 dates easy by saying hello to them.

Let me clear this up for everyone.  The men I have gone out with have been QUALITY.  Seriously, any woman would be lucky to spend an evening with any of them.

They have been gentlemen.  Conversation has been wonderful.  They are intelligent, hard working, handsome, good men.

By putting myself out there (to the point of literally holding a sign saying “I’m Available”) I have opened myself up to meeting men that normally I never would have had the opportunity.

Just because I am not exclusive with any of these men, doesn’t make them any less quality.  I just happen to be a hard person to connect with romantically, that’s all there is to it.

There have been men that I really hoped would ask me on a second date, but didn’t.  There have been men who have asked me out more than twice, but I knew there wasn’t a deeper connection so I chose to remain just friends.

This is just how dating is.  You keep trying until you find a spark.

If this challenge has opened my eyes to anything, it’s that there are some wonderful single men here in Utah.  

I feel incredibly privileged that so many have chosen to take me out.

So don’t just assume.  You never know what’s going on in this crazy head of mine  J